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What is a Fetish and Do You Have One

By: Francis Githinji

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Some people cannot put a finger on what their fetish is. Some know them but they think they are way too abnormal. What would you say a fetish is? It is word which means false charm, power or object. It is something you are obsessed with. It can be a body part or an object. Your sexual gratification is fixated on a particular thing. It becomes a fetish when you cannot sexually get satisfied unless you fantasize about it. It is so bad that even when you masturbate you must have it in mind and still when you are with a partner sexually it has to be present or somewhere in your imagination. For instance you might find brunettes attractive which is ok but if you cannot get sexually aroused without their presence, then you certainly have a serious fetish for brunettes.

A fetish transfers power from an original object or charm to a substitute. A person who has fetishes is known as fetishist whose operation is outside the circle of what is practically considered to be normal. The variety of fetishes depend on the object where the fetish is placed upon. The known inanimate fetishes are found in three varieties. The first one is a media fetish where the fixation is all about materials such as rubber, silk, latex and leather among others. The second variety is called a form fetish where the obsession is about the shape of the object. A good example of form fetishes are stilettos, knee-high boots and certain lingerie. When the object of obsession involves body parts, the type of fetish is categorized under animate fetishes. They can be breasts, hair, feet butts and any other body part.

People have the capacity of turning anything in to a fetish. There are mild and extreme fetishes. You can be able to assess the degree of your obsessive fixation according to whether it affects your relationships and your daily life. If it interferes with your activities you should seek professional help from a psychologist. Try as much as possible to tame your fetish because when if it goes wild it becomes a mental disorder. A fetish might be triggered by something. We were not born with these obsessions. We acquire them later in life as we develop. A guy admitted that he developed a fetish for tongue rings after being orally pleasured by a woman who had one. The cold abject rubbed against his manhood while her hot mouth was engulfing him. Such a guy is likely not to get sexual gratification by romancing an ordinary girl. He needs one with a tongue ring. Experiences make us develop a fetish.

It is amazing to learn that fetishes are our deep down turn on. We might never talk about them but in your gut you know it. Some men marry beautiful and humble wives while what turns them on is a “bad girl”. A girl with a crazy hairstyle and who can perform any act on them sexually. These idols are in movies and men close their eyes and fantasize about them. If you can watch a certain movie from Monday to Monday every day like there is no tomorrow, you probably have a fetish for that bad girl in the movie. A husband confessed that in order to orgasm, he had to fantasize that he was making love to this “bad girl” in his favorite movie.

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A Pleasure Guide to Bondage

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By: Suie Roberts

For the novice, bondage can be a quick and inexpensive way to spice up your sex life. You don’t need to buy any sort of specialised kit. Neck ties, stocking and belts make ideal bonds. Use soft items to bind your lover to avoid chafing.

Of course there is more to bondage than just tying your partner down to the bed. What are you going to do with them now that you have them there? This is why it is perceived that spanking and whipping must be involved. If you like that kind of thing there are a wide selection of Spanking Tools available, however this is sadism and masochism activity.

In its simplest form, bondage can be holding someone’s hands down whilst giving them a lap dance. In this situation there are no restraints at all. Bondage is more about the eroticism of being under the control of another person or the eroticism of having full control over someone else.

Because of this, bondage on any level stimulates the largest sex organ in the body – The Brain. Bondage binds the brain in rules that give the brain the illusion that the body is being restrained and controlled by someone else. It is usually considered that people in high powered jobs like these kind of sexual games, because they are able to let someone else take control so that they can loose control. But it is also fair to say that it is usually imaginative people who enjoy these games, because they are able to get lost inside the game.

Anyone considering practising bondage on any level must have complete trust in the person or persons who they intend to play with. It is also essential that everyone agrees on a ‘safety’ word. The safety word is a word that can be used by anyone to stop all activity immediately. The word could be a television programme, a musician, or complete nonsense such as ‘erotic elephants’. Whatever your safety word, it must only be used when you want to stop all activities and return to reality. It is important to be able to stop the game because someone my get hurt or injured.

Also for safety, don’t tie anyone too tight. During sexual arousal your body slightly swells, so a tight handcuff soon starts cutting off the bloody supply.

Other less brutal activities could involve teasing your partner.

Tips for girls -

Rub your pussy very lightly over his cock whilst rubbing baby oil into your breasts. Lean forward every now and then and let your juicy orbs hang in his face, just out of tongue reach.

Kneel above his chest and masturbate giving him a ringside seat. Rub your fingers over your lips and then go in for the full on snog.

A little forced face sitting, hover the bits of your pussy you want licking over his face.

Tips for the boys -

Get her to stick her tongue out and the stroke her face and neck and tongue with your erection.

Kiss and caress the inside of her thighs slowly, forever moving upwards little by little. Keep your hands moving and occasionally run your hand over her pussy, but don’t linger or give her any sort of satisfaction. Make sure she feels your breathe on her clit, but not your tongue! Not yet anyway.

The games and the teasing all adds to the excitement of bondage sex. The slow build up leads to steamy passionate sex.

After dabbling with bondage you may want to move up a level. This is a great excuse to dress up, whether you dress up as a Dominatrix, or a Submissive Sex Slave or the Devil herself; the key ingredient has to be PVC or Leather.

Top Tip – If you dress kinky and sexy, you feel kinky and sexy.

You may also want to upgrade your bondage restraints

Hand Cuffs – Cold metal feels nice against your skin, however, they do clank and make noise and they can scratch your furnishings, metal beds in particular.

Leather Wrist Restraints – The feel of leather and the look and smell of it is very sexy. Just be aware that leather collars and cuffs do take some ‘wearing in’ because new leather is rather stiff.

Fabric Wrist Restraints – Very comfortable to wear with padded protection. Quick and easy to use, you can tie someone up in the blink of an eye. They don’t damage your bed and are compatible with any kinky inflatable furniture. Fabric binds are easily washed in the washing machine. However, their sex appeal isn’t the greatest.

PVC Bondage Tape – Bondage tape is wonderful stuff. It works in a similar way to Clingfilm so it sticks but not with stickiness, so you can wrap it round your head and it doesn’t scalp you as you take it off. Its quick and easy to use and looks very hot, although you can’t reuse really because the tape stretches and goes funny and doesn’t look as sexy the next time you use it.

Of course, restraints aren’t just designed to tie your lover to the bed. Some restraints are designed so that they connect together, usually with ‘D’ ring (named after their shape). By clipping bondage items together, you can create unusual sex positions that need support, or just hold limbs out of the way for easier access. Cuff her ankles to her wrists, lay her on her back with her legs straight and you have easier access for giving oral and it leaves your hands free for other naughtiness.

The alternative is to buy your collars and cuffs separately. To ooze sex appeal here you really need to go to a specialised retailer and get sexy leather.

3-Ring Slave Collar – Not only do these collars make the wearer look really hot but they are also very versatile. They enable you to cuff hands to neck in front or behind of the wearer, or ankles to neck (obviously not so that it breaks the wearers hips). You can also add a lead for a bit of fun or use the third ‘D’ ring to tie them to the bed. Great fun.

Waist Cuff, Bondage Belt – Bondage belts allow you to tie your lovers hands to their waist, either at their sides or directly in-front or behind them, again with a long piece of rope you could also attach their ankles so that their legs are in the air and spread open. They can also be used to with a piece of rope going from centre front to centre back to form a kind of chastity belt, or to keep a vibrator firmly inside the vagina.

Leather and Steel Restraints – Ankle to wrist restraints are great for deep penetration sex. Cuff her up and then roll her backwards so that her weight rests on her shoulder blades. Tie the Cuffs to the bed to hold and maintain the position.

Inflatable Bondage Chair – Kinky Furniture is the ultimate bondage toy. However, Bondage furniture usually takes up a lot of space and is not easily hidden when out of use. Inflatable bondage furniture on the other hand easily packs away and can be hidden in the wardrobe – a little less sex appeal but saves the kids and your mother from seeing the evidence of your sexual kinks!

In another direction, there is Japanese bondage. With its oriental origins, Japanese bondage is considered by some an art form and if you really get into it you can really create some elaborate patterns. But to start with you probably wont create much in the way of art, but you will have lots of fun.

You may think a bit of old washing line will do the job, but you really cant skimp here. Get Rope intended for the job, or you run the risk of the rope itching and irritating the skin or chafing. If the rope is too thin it cuts into the skin. Considering the delicate places the rope is going to touch – you don’t want to be left with Chinese burns from your Japanese bondage!

You can buy Books about Japanese Bondage, but finding out for yourself is a whole lot of fun. Here are some Top Tips -

Double up your length of rope. Using double thickness makes knot tying easier.

Keep everything symmetrical – this makes for a more pleasing creation to the eye, it also makes things a whole lot easier.

Always start with a G-String style formation. Its good for anchorage points and gives you something to build on

To make the G-String

With doubled length, wrap around the waist as if it were a belt. Feed the surplus rope through the loop created when you doubled the length. Line up this connecting point with the navel.

Pass the rope down and through the legs and up between the buttocks to the middle back of the ‘belt’ and knot.

Now you are ready to go on to the upper body, or pass round to the sides to tie the wrists to the waist. Just let your imagination run riot!

Remember – When practising Japanese bondage do not make the binds too tight, and bare in mind that you will need to be able to untie any knots that you make.

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A Quick Rundown of Some of the Most Popular Gay Fetishes in America

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When it comes to the gay counterculture in America today, there are more gay fetishes around than you can shake a stick at. And to be sure, you can shake a stick at an awful lot of them. Sure, there are plenty of vanilla gay folks out there who do not involve any gay fetishes into their sexual habits, but it seems as though more often than not gay fetishes are involved in homosexual relationships. It can be said that being gay is a fetish in and of itself, but for the purposes of this article, we will just focus on some of the more hard core gay fetishes in the society today.

S and M is one of the more popular gay fetishes around. This involves one partner sexually or emotionally dominating the other, with one or both people involved getting sexual pleasure out of the activity. This particular gay fetish has lots of other stuff involved, such as whips, chains, blindfolds, leather, latex and a whole lot more. And all these are dedicated to hurting the submissive person in one way or another. There are actually a countless number of websites dedicated to this S and M gay fetish, with many heterosexual people engaging in the activity as well.

To find people who are interested in this S and M gay fetish, one only needs to do Google, Yahoo or MSN search and visit one of these websites and befriend the people who are also members of the community. For a real life gay fetish experience of this nature, you can go to an S and M gay fetish bar. There is usually one in just about every major city, so finding one is relatively easy. In more rural areas that do not have S and M gay fetish bars, you can usually find a group of people who are willing to host such events at their homes.

Another popular gay fetish involves bondage. In this gay fetish, one person ties up his or her partner with ropes or chains. This is a common gay fetish for both gays and lesbians, and this often includes blindfolds to enhance the bondage experience. Although related to the S and M gay fetish on a basic level, not all people who engage in bondage play are also into S and M. Yet another gay fetish involves age play, where one partner is significantly older than the other.

Top Ten Fetishes You Will Wonder About

Meow!Some fetishes are crazy but it is true that they exist. Men and women are sexual animals who derive pleasures from various avenues. Here are some ten fetishes which are top on the list. It is good to gauge your degree of fixation by reading about other people. During a survey carried out recently the following was revealed. Number ten on the list concerns stomachs. Males and females admitted that taut tummies drive them crazy. They said they will never be caught dating a person who has loose tummy. However some men admitted that they love women with a teensy-weensy tummy to help them release their sexual urge on the woman’s tummy. Otherwise his experience would not be enjoyable.

Number nine among the ten fetishes concerns body piercing. There are people with an obsession about tongues, nipples, penises, eyebrows and belly buttons. They would not get turned on by a person without these or more body piercing. To them it is not only beautiful but prerequisite. Men love material such as rubber, leather, latex and vinyl. Actually they do not love the feel but the pornographic quality the material gives to the act of love making. Men will always have a fixation with a “bad girl” look even though they settle down with a “nice woman”. They find it teasing to watch a woman walking around in something tight and shiny. To some, the fetish goes as far as ordering their girlfriends to change their wardrobe to latex and leather attire only.

Among the fetishes, number seven concerns submission and domination especially in bed. There are some men who love their sexual encounters better if the woman orders them around like slaves. They are smacked, spanked and even penetrated with a strap-on. These variety of men enjoy being submissive to the women. I guess they are just tired of dominating all the time. Number six talks about something you are familiar with. Many people have a fetish with hand and feet. Some men only date women with beautiful toes and feet. This is because they love to bite, suck, lick and kiss their women’s feet. Crazy as it may sound, some women exclusively climax on sucking a man’s finger as though it was his penis. Number five on the list is about men’s crazy obsession with red lipstick and long, red-painted fingernails. It is a thing of the 1980s but it makes them feel like they are having adulterous sex which is exciting.

Men are so much into pigtails, braids and ponytails. Hair is a great fetish is among the ten fetishes. Men prefer dating younger women and dating one with a pigtail makes them feel like their desires are fulfilled. They too love the way the hair is tied up such that it resembles a whip. They then demand their women to whip them with the tied hair and it turns them on ultimately. Some women have a fetish for bald heads. They love to caress the bald head during a passionate embrace. Fetish number three involves water. Some people admitted to having enjoyed sex when there was some running water at the background. It could be rain or the shower. Number one on the list is voyeurism and exhibitionism. Many men need to see sex being in performance in order to enjoy their sexual encounter. They have to be watching pornography or erotic movies to orgasm.

Fetish – Do You Misunderstand It?

high fetish IVAlthough fetishes are very common these days, some people are still having a very conservative attitude towards them. In fact, these people usually have a misunderstanding that fetishes are wired. This is really a misunderstanding. Fetishes are never something wired unless it is having sex with a dead body.

Actually, fetishes should be something very normal to our sex lives. It is just a matter of choice. They are full of fun and should be very interesting. And it may even make your sex life healthier. We can consider them something special to turn us on. They can be just something we think about when we are masturbating. There are also a lot of different fetishes. Yet we will usually hear about things latex and rubber. It is in fact a lot more than that.

As discussed and you may be well aware, latex and rubber are fetishes. And this kind of fetishes is usually related to some items or objects. For example, high heels can also be an item which consider fetish.

On the other hand, there are also fetishes without any actual item. Instead it can be something about acts. We can wear diaper and act like a baby. This can be fetish. Another example will be acing like teacher and student.

Interestingly, sometimes we may even know that we are having fetish. If you are someone who loves women with their pantyhose on, you are actually having fetish. If you love having sex with a woman with her high heel on, you are also having fetish. And there is nothing wrong with it. They are just what turn you on.

Besides the above, there are also a lot of other things which are considered fetishes. Leather, which sometimes falls into the same category as latex and rubber, is also fetishes. And even there is no actually item or acting like role playing, it can still be fetish. If you are a leg or feet lover, and you love licking the legs or feet while having sex, you are also fetish. At this point you may fully understand that why you may have been had fetish before without knowing it.

It is very important to understand that, as it is discussed at the very beginning, fetish is not something wired and you should not be conservative towards it. In the world of our sex lives, nothing will be regarded as right or wrong, as long as it does not hurt (physically and psychologically) or offence the law.

Fetish: for Your Pleasure

While some think that fetishes are sexual obsessions the truth is that these days a fetish is anything that heightens your sexual experience – even more than usual. It could be getting gagged and bound or having your naughty little romp video taped, it could be dressing up in leather or having sex with a complete stranger… even your love of women in heels could be painted with the ultra sexy fetish brush.

Feet and Toes Fetish

Maybe Madonna had it right when she said; “Shoes are better than sex because they last longer,” but according to the largest global study of sexual kinks ever under taken, there are a lot of men and women who don’t have a problem combining the two. This fetish was voted one of the world’s most favourite with thousands touting their love of foot jobs and toe sucking proving that putting your foot down can create new sexual delights… which leads us to the next fetish on our list…

Trampling Fetish

If you’ve ever had someone walk on you during sex then you’ve been trampled on and if you haven’t tried it then give it a go – it’s exhilarating for those who get off on domination. The woman wears high heels while she walks over the man’s chest, throat, stomach, and crotch. Funny thing is that the man will barley move even when the woman is standing on his crotch with spiked heels. The men love the idea of being under a woman’s heel and the woman loves being on top. It’s a win-win situation where everyone gets off!

Domination Fetish

Speaking of domination… this fetish is all about submission – there’s something about having power and being overpowered that sends tingles to all the right places. This fetish has become so popular that it can’t really be classed as underground anymore with more and more clubs organising special domination nights. Using props like whips, chains, handcuffs and gags, domination lovers get a thrill out of being the dominant one or losing control by being controlled.

Latex and Leather Fetish

Seeing a hot body adorned in tight leather or latex could quite possibly be one of the sexiest sights and lucky for those who love this theme as it has an enormous underground culture. There are retail stores where you not only purchase anything and everything latex and leather related, you can also find out about latex parties where you will be surrounded by people dressed in leather and latex all night long.

Uniform Fetish

Who doesn’t go crazy for a man in uniform or a woman dressed in a cheerleader’s outfit? This is a very popular fetish for men and women alike and it really brings the fantasy and fetish world together for a truly naughty night. This fetish is fairly broad and can be taken to any degree you feel comfortable with. A female doctor who seduces her patient or a medieval knight who knows how to use his sword – the options are only limited by your cheeky imagination.

Messy Food Fetish

When the batteries run out on the vibrator what’s a girl to do? Well this fetish might offer some solutions as it involves doing all sorts of things with everything from bananas to jelly. Whether it’s playing with it, smearing it all over the body or having someone else lick it all off, the messy food fetish involves all sorts of bits and pieces you can find at your local grocery store. The tame at heart will probably stick to the chocolate body sauce which is just as delicious in more ways than one.

Balloon Fetish

This one is a little unusual and so we just had to include it! This fetish involves being turned on by balloons; the smell, the noise, the excitement of not knowing when they are going to pop. People who enjoy this fetish are known as ‘looners’ and just hearing a hottie huffing and puffing on a balloon is enough to drive them over the edge.

Bingo night – Indianapolis

EVERYONE YELL….BINGO!!!!!!!!!

The Kentucky Indiana Submissives, Slaves and Switches in bottom mode (K.I.S.S.) group would like to issue an open invitation for all to join us in a good old fashion evening of fun and visiting and support a good cause at the same time.

Mark your calendars, save a ten-spot, and plan to join in this night of revelry!

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Date: January 31, 2009 Location: Ramada Inn Address I465 and Pendleton Pike ext 42 Time: 7:00 p.m. to 11:00 p.m. Cost: $10 donation for first sheet of 3 bingo cards (can be purchased prior to the event) $3 for additional sheets of cards

Our group lost a dear and cherished Steering Committee member this past summer. Before her untimely passing, Annie had been spearheading KISS efforts to raise money to purchase a chair in the theatre at the Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago. Now we all have a chance to complete this dream in Annie’s honor by simply getting together for camaraderie and fun.

Bingo is the game, and winning is the name! When you donate $10 to get a sheet of bingo cards, the Leather Archives and Museum wins as you help support our fundraising efforts to purchase a chair in their theater. KISS wins because any excess funds will be used to support the leather contests we’re hosting in the spring. And you win bragging rights and a small gift when you yell BINGO!

This fun-filled evening of bingo will be MC’d by the effervescent Ivana Morehead, she was born from the Bag Ladies (the nation’s second oldest HIV/AIDS fundraising organization). Ivana, who served as a co-founder of Indiana Still Cares (the parent group behind the Bag Ladies), has promised to perform a few numbers for us, and there may be a surprise in store for us all.

FOR MORE INFO: Contact di(BD) at di_in_indy@yahoo.com.

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Profile of the Week – green_eyesangel

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From: San Diego County, California, United States
Sex: female looking for Female
Age: 29
Drinks: occasionally
Smokes: no
Build: Average
Ethnic Origin: Caucasian (white)
Children: no
Height: 5′ 5″ (165cm)
Seeking: 1 on 1 sex
Adult Interests: Web Camming, Cyber Sex, Swinging, Dogging, Exhibition / Voyeurism, Sex Toys, Anal Sex (Giving), Anal Sex (Receiving), Dildos, Power Play, Masturbation, Domination, Oral Sex (Giving), Oral Sex (Receiving), Cunnilingus, Massage, Making Home Movies, Leather, Lingerie, Fisting, Handcuffs / Shackles, High Heels, Anal Toys, Candle Wax, Breast / Nipple Clamps, Bondage, Arse (Ass) Play, Biting, Blindfolds, Role Play, Spanking, Strip Tease, Threesomes, Erotic Chat / E-Mail
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Profile of the Week – ashleykisser08

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From: Southern California, California, United States
Sex: female looking for Male
Age: 24
Drinks: occasionally
Smokes: yes
Build: Toned
Ethnic Origin: Caucasian (white)
Children: no
Height: 5′ 7″ (170cm)
Seeking: 1 on 1 sex
Adult Interests: Web Camming, Swinging, Dogging, BDSM, Exhibition / Voyeurism, Discreet Relationship, Sex Toys, Anal Sex (Giving), Anal Sex (Receiving), Dildos, Transvestism, Rubber, Sadism, Power Play, Masturbation, Domination, Oral Sex (Receiving), Fellatio, Cunnilingus, Massage, Masks, Making Home Movies, Leather, Latex, Gangbangs, Handcuffs / Shackles, Cross Dressing, Scat, Chains, Candle Wax, Bondage, Arse (Ass) Play, Blindfolds, Spanking, Strip Tease, Tantric Sex, Threesomes, Watersports
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im sexy…hot and pretty
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goLEATHER DC – 1/11 and 1/17 – Meeting and MAL Shopping Trip

goLEATHER DC – 1/11 and 1/17 – Meeting and MAL Shopping Trip – Fet Nights – Announce/RSVP – FetLife
goLEATHER will once again be meeting in January – actually we will twice again be meeting in January!

many directions where to goOn 1/11, @4pm we invite anyone and everyone who is interested or curious about the group, who may possibly want to be involved in the coming year, to attend a short 2009 planning meeting. During 2008 we’ve had a great time but we’d love to see a more active membership and we want YOUR input on the direction of the group. Should goLEATHER focus more on community service? More on activism? More on education? More on fundraising? All of the above, or none? If you would like to be a member or an Advocate Member, please join us for this session. If you cannot make it, please email me beforehand if you’d still like to contribute ideas. If enough people are present we will elect officers or take volunteers for positions for the 2009 year. If you’ve always wanted to have a hand in helping a small group get off the ground, please come and join us.

For more information, message me (DominaSmartass) or check out www.goleather.org and www.goleather.org/dc.htm

FET Then, on 1/17, come with us on a shopping trip to the MAL Exhibition Hall. It doesn’t cost anything to get in and this is some of the best shopping you’ll find with so many vendors all in one place. We can plan a meeting time and place but the exhibition hall opens at 10am and I’m thinking we’ll go down around noon. I will post updates to the goLEATHER group on Fetlife as plans firm up.

Ellen

President, goLEATHER DC/MD/VA Chapter

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