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BDSM – A Short Guide

Posted on July 16, 2010 by Jarl Mezentius

BDSM – Helpful information

In this article you will educate yourself about BDSM and in what way it can be used as stress relief for some.

Firstly, BDSM is short for for Bondage, Discipline and Sado Masochism. Additionally, it is short for Bondage, Dominance, Sadism and Masochism.

BDSM involves two or more people in several roles. Often, one person plays the dominant role while the other plays a submissive role. The dominating person administers pain to the submissive person by means of “torture”, beatings, and whippings. Chiefly, the submissive person enjoys increasingly being in bondage, while the dominant person enjoys the experience of power. There is a consensual arrangement between the parties, and thus even though it would appear that the submissive person is being forced to take the pain, both parties are experiencing pleasure. Therefore, it is easy to see how this technique can certainly help relieve stress. BDSM is often associated with scenes in sex magazines where it’s useful to create sexual tension.

You will find numerous types of BDSM, whereby the intensity of pain also may differ. In some kinds of BDSM, the activities involve mild pain or none at all, while others involve serious pain. In cases where the submissive person is experiencing intense pain, they are the ones which have some degree of control over the amount of pain he or she will take. It is not as if the person is being forced to take the pain.

While intense kinds of BDSM involve actual pain, less severe forms involve bondage, light caning, spanking, verbal abuse, or humiliation. Whatever forms of activities are involved in BDSM, the role-play has to be safe, consensual and controlled.

Many people do not understand the BDSM community. The SM part of the acronym BDSM (Sadism and Masochism) describes activities that are regarded as unpleasant by many people. Obviously, men and women who don’t grasp what BDSM means, can be quick to associate BDSM participants as freaks and perverts, since the activities and the names imply abuse and violence. In addition to the obvious Bondage and Discipline part of it, which we will come to later. Steps have been taken to give a more positive meaning to BDSM and this is how the acronym was arrived at.

Many more people are doing BDSM today than before. The interesting truth is that you may already be involving BDSM as part of your sex life without knowing it. Unlike back in the day, when BDSM was viewed negatively, many people are starting to realise the positive aspects of this lifestyle. It is easy to attach evil or dark connotations to BDSM when you first encounter the practice on movies, videos or magazines, but as you learn that it is not what it seems to be, you will start to view it more positively.

BDSM has become cleverly included in commercials globally. You may have seen commercials where Jeans manufacturers manipulate a form of BDSM in their adverts. Even music may be based on BDSM, such as Justin Timberlake “Sexy Back”, and “Master and Servant” Depeche Mode in addition to numerous others. BDSM crops up in every day life if you look for it.

As BDSM is becoming a lot more popular, companies are offering new products in this niche. The likes of Ann Summers now sell lots of BDSM equipment and clothes. Products are available for both the dominant and submissive role-plays. If you undertake some window-shopping in one of these brilliant shops, you will discover an assortment of whips, canes, leather clothing, guide books, and many other items. Additionally, you will find novelty products like blindfolds, handcuffs, and light chains. The shops are stocked to the brim during Christmas, and Valentines.

BDSM has been practised for quite some time but the most prominent advocate of BDSM lived in the 18th century. Should you study the history of BDSM, you will know that nothing has changed really except the name and popularity of this practice. Nobody knows how BDSM started. The French author, Marquis De Sade was known to be a passionate sexual sadist. Marquis has written many books about BDSM, although not much is well know about his acts. The most crucial element omitted from Marquis Publications is the need for consent in all BDSM activities. Consent is necessary from the submissive role players to get familiar with the act. Modern BDSM emphasizes the need for consent from both parties to obtain pleasure from one another through bondage or dominance.

Therefore, it is no coincidence that the word Sadist is derived from the name of the French author, Sade. Masochism is another term that is part of the BDSM acronym. This term is credited to the author of Venus In Furs, Sacher-Masoch.

An important feature of BDSM is role-playing. It has been described how people obtain pleasure from Dominance and Submission. People will also obtain pleasure from bondage. Numerous factors come into play during role-playing. A participant will experience of all kinds of physical sensations which might be triggered by erotic stimuli, emotions and psychological aspects which could bring stress relief. The Sadism Masochism section of BDSM (SM) involves the dominatrix playing as the Sadist, administering pain and humiliation, while the Submissive plays the Masochist, who receives the pain and humiliation.

BDSM activities where people role play are often held at private clubs or at fetish clubs like the Torture Garden Fetish Club in London. Groups of people can engage in these activities. Many people experience a sense of freedom or liberty while they are in bondage. This freedom relates to their day to day life, and their ability to take responsibilities and make decisions. You will find BDSM scenes that involve people who are powerful businessmen in real life, playing the role of a submissive. Although it is only for a short time, they learn something about being in a position of weakness. They will thus be able to relate better to their employees.

Imagine yourself being the Dominatrix in this role-play. In the real world, a businessman who runs a company and is totally anxious, and stressed, being the dominant person at the office may result in him being a submissive in a BDSM scene since the dominant one takes away the power which he has in real life. She becomes the boss, and treats him like an underdog (possibly similar to how he treats his employees). She takes on the power, so he submits his manhood, his dominant personality to her as he does not have to take responsibility for anything in the scene and the roles are reversed. You can be dominant in other areas of your business apart from with your employees. As an example, you can be dominant over your competitors.

Some people are just not capable of being dominant role in real life, and this may lead to stress if you are in a position that requires you to be dominant. When you are not dominant, you will lose control and power, and this may translate into low self-esteem and financial loss for your business.

BDSM is a form of therapy that can be applied to your business. People who are submissives in real life may want to learn how to be dominant. BDSM offers the perfect environment for your fantasies. Besides helping you to be successful in business, it will also help you to relieve stress by participating in a scene can be viewed as “playing”. In BDSM, you have your sphere of influence where you can exert control. It can also be a helpful therapy to businessmen who are looking for an emotional outlet. Instead of releasing negative energy against your employees or competitors, BDSM will provide a healthy channel for your pent up energy.

It has been discovered that the human body releases pleasure chemicals called Endorphins into the bloodstream during periods of pleasure, such as sex, when eating chocolate and during painful/intensely emotional or highly excitable scenes. So if enjoying BDSM releases Endorphins, it’s inevitable that it can be found to be useful as a stress reliever.

Kate J Ashley
http://www.freepersonals4u.com
http://www.0844Dating.com

Author: Kate J Ashley
Article Source: EzineArticles.com
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BDSM: An Immeasurable Range of Sexual, Sensual and Intimate Activities

Posted on February 3, 2009 by Jarl Mezentius

To some people, the term BDSM brings to mind images of people tied up in chains, in some dark secret dungeon and being whipped senseless in some type of twisted if not macabre pleasure. You know, an indulgence for those bordering of mental illness. bent_forward_strappadoThis of course could be seen as true in some instances but this is not what BDSM is all about. BDSM cannot be defined by one activity alone, in fact it would be accurate to say that BDSM cannot be defined by any number of activities, it’s a lifestyle choice, which is entirely unique.

The term ‘BDSM’ encompasses an immeasurable range of sexual, sensual and intimate activities. The most common can include power or role-play, a range of sensory games from the extreme infliction of intense pain to the gentle tease of a feather and much more. Many have even participated in an act that could sit under the caveat of BDSM without even knowing it and this style of sexuality is ever on the increase whether you are aware of it or not.

So, what exactly is BDSM?

The term BDSM itself is actually made up from abbreviations of other terms. B & D represents ‘bondage and dominance’ or ‘bondage and discipline’. D & S represents ‘dominance and submission’ and S & M represents ‘sadism and masochism’. With all these terms sitting under the BDSM belt it is easier to see exactly why BDSM can be extremely hard to define and is simply more straightforward to view as a way of life.

As well as being hard to define there are also no set practices within BDSM. For many, it is seen as a way to add an element of spice and enjoyment to their sex lives. Others can view BDSM as a way to gain fulfillment or a temporary release from everyday life, a kind of escape if you will. Still others will view it as a way to deepen the bond between partners. This list of varying views could continue but it is far simpler to point out that there are possibly as many views as there are people involved in the subject. Although the list of views varies dramatically the people behind them all share something in common and that something is known as SSC.

Like BDSM, SSC is also an acronym. It stands for Safe, Sane and Consensual. Safe means that precautions are taken to prevent harm or injury to those involved. Sane means that mental and emotional safety is also cared for and consensual almost speaks for itself; all parties involved agreeing to participate without coercion.

BDSM involves, but is not limited to, any one or a combination of the following practices. The practice is as varied as the people involved in it. The main thing is eroticism.

1. Bondage: refers to the practice of physically restraining a person, by means of devices such as handcuffs, rope, chains etc.

2. Discipline: refers to the process of punishing or being punished.

3. Sadism: refers to deriving pleasure of personal gratification from causing pain, suffering or cruelty.

4. Masochism: refers to deriving pleasure from mental, emotional or physical pain.

While the major sub-groupings of BDSM are within its own definition, it encompasses a very wide variety of practices, some being obvious and others not so obvious. They include;

1. Servitude or slavery

2. Spanking/flogging/canning/whipping

3. Suspension

4. Humiliation

5. Sadism/masochism

6. Sensory deprivation (Example, blindfolding)

7. Body piercing and tattooing

8. Movement restriction

9. Sensation-play (Example, tickling)

10. Medical procedures

What sort of people practice BDSM?

Contrary to the images imprinted in our minds by the media, BDSM is not necessarily hardcore sadism or pornography. People of all walks of life, from various backgrounds and nationalities, all sexual orientations, perform BDSM activities. Participants are, in most cases, normal well-adjusted, and respectable people in their communities. In fact as much as 50% of the population have a varying degree of interest in the subject and that’s with them being knowledgeable enough to know what it encompasses. If you include in those figures couples that may have restrained each other to a bed or the simple use of a blindfold you could expect that percentage to soar. Historically this behavior was listed as a psychological problem in a similar vain to masturbation and homosexuality. Today, however, as are homosexuality and masturbation becoming increasingly accepted in society, so is BDSM.

Is BDSM abuse?

People who practice it say they do so for fun. The emphasis is on SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual). It is not about dominance or forcing another person to do things they don’t want to do. It is about both parties doing what they do want to do. It involves two happy parties.

BDSM can also be subtle and highly erotic, as in the case of tickling or stimulating sensitive body parts with a feather, paintbrush or similar object. There may or may not be pain.

The majorities involved in BDSM share a heightened sense of responsibility and respect for their partners. BDSM has absolutely nothing to do with violence against a helpless victim. It is this kind of common misconception that responsible BDSM participants wish to dispel. Restraining a partner and beating them is not BDSM but simply brutality. The heightened sense of responsibility and respect often results in a positive side effect of superior levels of communication, which, in the BDSM world, is essential, and something that the majority of mainstream couples would be advised to adapt.

Responsible participants practice the use of good communication up front, the use of a ‘safe word’ which will stop the action immediately and a period of communication after any event to discuss what could be better for the next time.

Why BDSM?

There are as many reasons as there are people. The most obvious is good old fun. Some people do it to fulfill their fantasies. For others it is the role-playing. For some it is simply the feeling of dominance or submission. The list is endless.

One thing you can be sure of is that BDSM will always attract a certain curiosity. People will come from all genders and orientations establishing common ground between heterosexuals, homosexuals and any other orientation that you can think of. Before you dismiss BDSM and vouch that you would never participate in such an act or lifestyle, can you be so sure that you haven’t, to a certain degree, done so already?

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