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Sensual touching or caressing is a like a form of artful expression. Close your eyes and picture yourself painting a picture, using only the softest brush stokes that bring out the soft hues of your color. See yourself painting a pattern on your partner’s body using your fingers and hand to develop a soft color design. Sensual touching/caressing, is designed to relax or relieve the stress of a long day you or your partner may be feeling, it is not necessarily sexual, but it can be used to arouse and stimulate your partner, in one of the most fantastic intimate experiences they have ever had,.

After years of practical experience on my Master – husband and some research into the subject, I have developed my own way of using sensual touching / caressing. You may know your partner better then he or she may know themselves, you can develop your own unique way of touching / caressing the right spots on your partner, to reach that most relaxing, moaning and, for them, almost purring sensations to lose all thoughts of the day and be asleep in no time, or to stimulate and arose their sexual desires until your partner is extremely aroused that the slightest touch to his body excites him. You can arose your partner to the point that one type of caressing can have them ready to explode, while another type of caressing can prolong their / pleasure  into an evening of fantastic sex for both. This method is easy to learn and needs no special tools except your own hands. Using flat palms, finger tips and your finger nails in various ways is quite effective in creating the perfect effect for relaxation or arousal for you and your partner.

First step: Set the scene for the room.

Rather you are doing the caressing for relaxation or sexual arousal, set up the room to include your other senses. Stimulating sight, sound and scent can play a big part in the way you perform your technique. This step can be done before your partner gets home from a long day or you can do it together in a way you both are happy. This should be your first step, because after you perform the second step, you may not want to take the time to set the mood for the room before starting your scene.

Here are a few ideas for setting the room.

• Set the lighting to your comfort zone. One item I found most enjoyable was a simple humidifier. It not only created relaxing light changes but I could also add scented oils to the water. This one item could then be used for the comfort of two of your senses, sight and smell. By placing a little lavender oil (or your favorite relaxing scent) in the humidifier, works great.
• Set the temperature in the room where you are most comfortable.
• Your sense of smell, use scented candles, incense, potpourri, scented oils, which ever is your favorite relaxing or stimulating scent.
• Sound, your sense of hearing. Put on some of your favorite music or whatever sound you can relax too the best or arouses you the most. Soft music or sounds of nature I found most relaxing. For some of you no sound at all is very relaxing.
• Remember you are setting the scene that bests suits you and your partner for whichever reason you are performing the sensual touching/caressing.

Step Two: Getting you and your partner ready to relax.

Get comfortable before starting any scene with your partner, if one of you is uncomfortable with how things are set up, then the experience will not be as enjoyable. Find that comfort Zone, what works best for both of you? If you have been together as a couple long enough, then most likely you will know how to Find and Stay within Each Others Comfort Zone.

1. Experiment with different things you can do together to set the scene, and make it an easy part of your daily routine before bed, so that it not only feels relaxing, but it also looks and smells relaxing.
2. One idea that worked well for us, was taking an evening shower together. Besides having a clean body to caress afterwards, it gives both of you some good bonding time with an early start on the caressing by helping each other bathe. Speaking for myself, I found it most enjoyable, comfortable and arousing, bathing my husband in the shower. Being there with him and caressing his naked body with a soapy bath puff, was enjoyable for both of us. That is just one method to start the scene for you and your partner.
3. Clothing;  Clothing is optional, decide rather you want to wear some kind of comfortable clothing or no clothing at all, by this I mean wearing something that is not only comfortable, like boxer underwear or panties. If you are a bit on the bashful side about being totally naked, then a little clothing will keep you in your comfort zone. The less clothing the better, as you will want to have most of your partner’s body bare to perform your touching/caressing technique. For the best experience no clothing at all is recommended. But remember, if you are caressing your partner to relax him, if he usually wears something to sleep in, make sure to have the items ready for him or her to put on before the touching/caressing puts them to sleep. I found it quite difficult to put my husbands sleeping pants on after he fell asleep from the caressing.

Now that you have the room in the right setting, its time to pick your spot to perform the sensual touching/caressing. You can use the bed or the floor especially if you have soft carpeting. I prefer using the bed as it offers the best comfort, plus if your partner falls asleep; he is already in the bed.

For the purpose of explaining this technique lets say we are using the bed. After you get your partner lying on the bed, (you can start with either side first, facing up or down is optional) position yourself in a comfortable way, either sitting or laying down close to your partner. Closeness to your partner is part of the technique, so lay or sit as close to him or her as is comfortable and still giving you a good position to work your sensual magic. Your comfort is as important as your partners.

Practice using your hands for a very light and soft touch. Start with flat palms caressing very softly, as if you were rubbing an infants tummy. Let’s say your partner is lying on his of her belly. Starting at the shoulders begin to gently to caress across his back very softly with your palms, moving your hand across his back from one side to the other working your way down to the buttocks, the caress your way back up to his neck. Extend and spread your fingers and work your hand through his hair caressing his scalp, letting your fingers slide through his hair for several seconds. Then work you hand back down to his back, this time caressing lengthwise up and down his back, continuing along the legs, all the way to the feet and back up again. Repeat this step for several minutes to sensitize and stimulate your partner’s sense to touch. Than have him turn over and repeat the same technique across his chest, around his neck, working your way down his belly over the tops of his legs to the feet then back up again.

The fingertips can now be used excite your partners sensation even more. Using just the tips of your fingers begin moving them over his skin very softly tracing different designs in several directions across your partner’s body.

Example: Draw different sizes of the figure eight across his back.

That is just one example, you can also do circles, straight lines or run your fingers along the lines and curves of your partners back as if you were tracing out each individual muscle and curve of your partners body. This technique can be done on the back, chest, legs, arms and even the face, just about anywhere on your partner’s body you can run your fingers over. This type of caressing/touching will begin to heighten the senses even more then the flat of your palms, from the stimulation created over the surface of the skin. Changing the amount of the pressure of your touching/caressing from soft, medium to a bit harder will cause an increase the flow of blood to the surface of the skin, thus increasing the sensation of pleasure your partner receives. This technique not only feels wonderful, it is also fun to do, unless your partner happens to be ticklish, if so you may not get to the point of using your fingertips and fingernails, if your partner feels like he’s being tickled to death. Use the fingertip technique for several minutes then switch to the fingernails.

Using your fingernails softly trace up and down your partners back, then softly scratch from side to side across his back, then caress the scratches back down with the flat of your palms. Depending on what your partner likes will determine how hard or light you will be able to use your fingernails on his skin. This can be done on any part of your partner’s body that he feels comfortable letting you scratch with your fingernails. This technique will stimulate the blood flow even more increasing the sensation of pleasure for your partner. Do not be alarmed if you see light scratch marks, just remember to be cautious and not scratch so hard that you break the skin open which can cause bleeding. That can ruin the whole routine you have worked up too, unless your partner is into that type of pain/pleasure. Remember to follow each scratching session with the flat of your palms smoothing it back down, in this way it completes the sensation you are trying to achieve.

At this point, you are at a good position to choose to continue the caressing your partners body for the relaxation effect,  or move on to the next step which will arouse and stimulate you and your partner for some great sexual fun.

Step Three: Arousing your partner for a fantastic sexual experience.

Caressing your partner’s genital area is optional; this step depends entirely on the person and what they like. This step can and most times will be quite arousing for you and your partner. Use one or two fingers to gently trace around the edges of the genital area at first. Trace small circles or straight lines around the edge first, working your way closer to his sex, (I will refer this step as if performing the technique on a man, if doing this for the female partner, the fingers would be sliding in and out of the lips of her pussy) tracing circles around his balls then up around his cock as if you were drawing an outline of his cock in whatever position it happens to be in, without moving the cock..  Then caress away from the genital area moving back down the legs and up the side of the legs back to the belly and chest, all the way to the neck. This step will arouse your partner with anticipation for more and produce a hard cock or a moist pussy. After a minute or so caressing the legs and chest make your way back to the genital area, again tracing lines around the balls and cock only this time lightly, as soft as a feather let your fingers caress along the shaft of his cock, then down around each testicle before moving back up the cock again.

Now by this time you stimulate your partner into a more erotic frenzy for some sexual play. It all depends on how both of you feel and what goal you are attempting to achieve, relaxation from a hard day or some fantastic sexual bonding.

Review:

I prefer starting with my partner on his back first, but you can do either side first.

Start with a flat palms first caress working your hands over the full length of his body front and back, including running your fingers through his hair several times.

Work the flat palms in straight motions down his back across his buttocks all the way down his upper leg as far as you can reach comfortable, without have to change your position.

Shift your position if necessary to reach the lower parts of the legs and feet. But remember, your comfort while performing the touching/caressing is just as important as your partners, who is receiving the touching/caressing.

I would usually choose to caress the upper parts of his body well before shifting my position to reach the lower parts of his legs and feet.

Using just your fingertips, begin moving them over his skin very softly tracing different designs in several directions across your partner’s body.

Using your fingernails softly trace up and down your partners back, then softly scratch from side to side across his back, then caress the scratches back down with the flat palms.

Know matter who is the giver and who is the receiver, either way, it works great for both partners as a unique bonding method that will enhance your intimacy together. It will also add spice to your life while bringing you closer together. Massage oils or lotions are not necessary for this type of touching/caressing and so it is best to not use them as it is only light touching and not massaging. The oils and lotions can change the affect of what you are attempting to do.

This paper is a work in progress, thanks for enjoying it. Asha`di

Written by:
Asha`di
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