Bondage, Toys, and the Myths in Between - Associated Content
By cw
“BSDM”: a tricky acronym that seems to be very confusing to many. Yet when broken down, it is really quite simple. Each letter of this acronym corresponds to each other. B & D = Bondage and Discipline. D & S = Dominance and Submission. S & M= Sadomasochism.

This lingo may still be confusing to you. But it’s good to know that “BSDM” can refer to any of these ideas, and unlike many who believe this, BDSM is not a negative or hurtful thing when it comes to sex.

Many may hear the word “bondage” and run scared, thinking of it as too wild or sick or “out there” to even dare try.

What many do not know is that even the simplest acts of erotica used in bed or wherever, are in fact considered BDSM. If you’ve ever used a blindfold, whipped cream, ice cubes or feathers to entice your partner, you have engaged in BDSM.

Sexual tension is something that occurs within both members of the opposite sex. BDSM is an excellent way to release this tension and discover sides of you and your partner that would otherwise not be seen in a normal session under the sheets.

In most cases, one person chooses to be the dominant and one choose to be the submissive. Self-explanatory, but in essence, the dominant partner is the one in charge; the submissive chooses to be “submitted.” And contradictory to popular belief, it isn’t just the dominant partner who gets what they want; the submissive gets what they want, if not more, sexually. To keep things interesting, it is not uncommon for partners to switch these roles.

Overall, BDSM is a way to explore yourself and your partner sexually. It’s a harmonious agreement between two people to react upon each other’s deepest needs, fantasies and desires.

Hopefully this will remove any stereotype or negative connation that “bondage” is all hardcore sex or infliction of pain for pleasure. Yes, the pleasure part is correct. But when a couple decides to engage in this activity, they are not physically harming each other for pleasure…it is more the idea of being submitted by someone else that is the turn-on.

Just like BDSM, it’s all too common a misconception that toys used for bondage may, in fact, hurt your partner or significant other. Rather, this is a silly thought when remembering what these type of sex objects are made for…They are “toys” after all. They are not meant to physically damage, but physically please.

Popular bondage toys like handcuffs, whips, paddles and feathers have been around for years and have been used by couples, swingers, lovers, and nymphos, for ages. There is something about being tied up naked, held hostage in bed or teased to the point of orgasm that entices people to use these objects. They are simply a turn-on.

Luckily, these days we have the freedom of choice. Handcuffs do not have to be the standard plastic black; they can be any color you like while the material can be whatever feels pleasing to the skin, from sexy leather to sensual Japanese silk. For those who really enjoy being in charge, they even have cuffs for the neck, ankles and legs of your partner as well.

Whips, paddles and nipple clamps are also popular S&M toys, all of which are sold in variation. Like many bondage products, whips, as well as nipple clamps, may sound dangerous. But again, the whip itself cannot cause any serious physical pain, but rather is used is a form of foreplay or sexual engagement before actual intercourse.

As far as nipple plants go, do not run scared (especially men.) In most cases the clamp simply vibrates, if anything at all, and this should not be painful but stimulating to the body.

There are more objects that fall into the bondage category whether they really belong there or not. An example of this is the ever-popular “sex swing,” which is accurately more a toy than a bondage object. The swing, however, is excellent for those who like trying out new sexual positions, not to mention those who like producing many, many big O’s for you and your partner.

If you’re new to bondage, start out simple. Even the seemingly harmless combination of a blindfold and feather can work wonders for your partner.

These toys were made for sexual pleasure. Enhance your erotic desires and live out your sexual fantasies.

Satisfaction guaranteed.