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Las Vegas Fetish and Fantasy Ball – 2008:
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On Saturday OCTOBER 25, 2008, the THIRTEENTH annual FETISH & FANTASY HALLOWEEN BALL will take over Las Vegas. Named as “ONE OF THE TOP 10 EVENTS IN THE WORLD” by the Travel Channel, “THE MOST ADULT OF THE ADULT (HALLOWEEN) EVENTS IN VEGAS” by the Las Vegas Weekly, and “ONE OF 5 EVENTS TO ATTEND BEFORE YOU DIE” by Maxim Magazine, the 2008 Fetish & Fantasy Halloween Ball will take place at a new location (to be determined (TBD)). The event takes place from 10pm to 4am on SATURDAY, OCTOBER 25, 2008. Issues which presented themselves at the 2007 event have been addressed with our NEW VENUE, and this years event will surely be one to remember. Now in our second decade of dramatic, edge of the envelope presentations, the 2008 event will continue to be the LARGEST and most exciting ADULT HALLOWEEN event in VEGAS.

As always you can count on unusual and wild, Erotic stage performances, as well as FIRE PERFORMERS, incredible lasers and lights, world class DJ’s, a costume contest, vendors, a HUGE DANCE FLOOR, a separate old school dance area, stilt walkers, freaks, monsters, SURPRISES AROUND EVERY CORNER, and you in your naughtiest, scariest, sexiest, and most creative costumes. REMEMBER you are the show, so DRESS TO THRILL…
Early bird DISCOUNT TICKETS will be available shortly through paypal. Click on “PURCHASE TICKETS” and follow the instructions to get your advance tickets now. Hotel rooms have also become difficult to come by over the Halloween weekend so MAKE YOUR RESERVATIONS AND TRAVEL ARRANGEMENTS EARLY. We have secured a block of 200 discounted rooms at the TBD so you can be onsite and well taken care of. Cameras will be allowed, but no video recorders. Click on “HOTEL ROOMS” for complete information. Click on “DRESS CODE” to see what DRESS CODE CHANGES are in affect for this years Ball. To look for yourself in the crowd, or to see some of the wild antics from previous years, click on “PICTURES FROM THE BALL”.
Performers for the Twelfth Annual Fetish & Fantasy Halloween Ball will be announced as they are signed, so check back occasionally to see who will be performing. Go to the upcoming events page and SIGN UP ON OUR MAILING LIST to receive updates as they occur. We’ll see you at the Ball…

San Francisco Fetish Ball Gallery Show
2008 SAN FRANCISCO FETISH BALL
MARCH 6th-9TH, 2008 – 9:00pm – 3:00am
REGENCY GRAND BALLROOM 1300 VAN NESS

As we speak, our 7th Annual SF Fetish Ball team is assembling a world-class line up for the 2008 Fetish Ball – and we mean world class!

Be prepared for the most over the top Fetish Ball the States has ever thrown. The previous six years were just a warm up for what we have in store for you. Last year’s event sold out, and people were lined up down the street waiting for the tips of their toes to touch the red carpet.

Our theme this year is based on a 1927 silent science-fiction film created by famed Austrian-German director, Fritz Lang.

Metropolis is set in the year 2026, in the extraordinary Gothic skyscrapers of a corporate city-state, the Metropolis of the title. Society has been divided into two rigid groups: one of planners or thinkers, who live high above the earth in luxury, and another of workers who live underground toiling to sustain the lives of the privileged.

Sister Roma

Pretty Purvey

Madame S Fashions

Vex Clothing

Anticeptic Fashions

James Mogul

Madison Young

DJ’s to be annouced

Other performers to be annouced

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From high-tech tools to sequined nipples, what to buy your sexy online sweetheart

by Bonnie Ruberg
December 16th, 2007 7:52 PM

Yes, that time of the holiday season has arrived. You’ve finished 95% of your shopping, and the only people left on your list are damn difficult. What do you get the near-sighted uncle who already has a closet full of sweaters? Or the meditative pal who recently gave up his all worldly possessions? But those people pale in comparison to the toughest challenge of all: the online lover. Sure, you talk all the time, but chances are you’ve never even met this person in real life. How are you supposed to know what kind of gift-wrapped trinket to send them?

Fret no more, yuletide cybersex fans, because Click Me is full of last-minute suggestions. Whether you’re shopping for a cyber playmate, a real-life partner with a kinky side, or just someone whose digital naughty bits you’d like to get better acquainted with, these gift ideas are sure to make it a very sexy internet Christmas.

A webcam. For that cybersex enthusiast who’s still stuck in the dark days of text and voice chat, a webcam is the fastest way to get teleported into the up-to-date world of online video sex. It can be used for keeping in touch with long-distance boyfriends, for getting naked with new sexy friends, or for turning pro and putting on shows. Melissa Gira of Sexerati recommends the iMage for Macs that don’t already have built in iSights ($59.99). As for PCs, Logitech makes a wide range of cams ($49.99-$99.99) that are equally capable of showing off the curves behind your sweetheart’s keyboard.

A striptease kit. Does your special someone already own a webcam? Is he/she/ze just too shy to get naked in front of it? Then buy them A Guide to the Art of Striptease ($24.95) and boost their bare-skin confidence. This is the complete package for anyone who’s ever wanted to learn how to shimmy, but has been too embarrassed to ask an actual stripper. The kit comes with a guidebook, body glitter, and red sequin pasties for your loved one’s nipples. “Learning to strip is easier than learning to ride a bike—and a hell of a lot sexier,” promises the guide, especially with its pre-set stripping routines, including moves like “The Raunchy Ramp” (lying on your back and thrusting your hips in the air), “Firestarter” (resting on your elbows while kicking up your legs), and “The Rock ‘N’ Roll” (working those pasties for all they’re worth).

Some sexy underwear. It may sound cliche, but a few semi-seductive, matching sets of bras and panties could make the perfect gift for even the more experienced cybersex enthusiast. A spontaneous webcam liaison can stop before it starts if a woman thinks, “Wait, what underwear am I wearing right now? Ugh, the old pair with the holes. I definitely can’t take off my clothes wearing this.” In fact, sultry undergarments might even inspire the aforementioned woman to get naked in front of her camera more often. If she’s got her sexy undies on, she’ll just have to show them to someone…

A small, easy-to-maneuver vibrator. As text cyberers know, masturbating while typing can be a chore. Make things easier on a female friend or family member by buying them the Laya Spot ($48.00). Curved for ergonomic clitoral stimulation, the Laya comes in bright, festive colors and is made of super safe Elastomer. Most importantly, it’s powerful and easy to control without looking down. By feeling for the plus button, the lucky recipient can get off without ever taking their eyes of the screen.

A subscription to an independent porn site. Everyone loves internet porn, even people who aren’t into cybersex. For $19.95 a month at a website like TastyTrixie.com, someone you love could have access to nude photo galleries, video shows, and spycams from the personal home of Trixie—a beautiful, buxom, 100% natural performer who runs her own site and controls her own body. Sexy and empowering: it’s a Christmas miracle.

A hefty hunk of Linden dollars. There are lots of virtual world out there for having sex, but Second Life is still the number one spot to go for exploring your online fantasies. Like the membership, the sex in Second Life is free (unless you hire a virtual escort), but having money certainly makes it a more pleasant experience. 10,000 Linden dollars—the game’s local currency—can be purchased for approximately 44 US dollars. With that much cash, a new Second Life resident could buy a whole wardrobe of sexy clothes, as well as a slew of anatomically correct body parts—even animated genitalia. Nobody wants to stay a Ken doll forever…

The book that (re)kindles their faith in cybersex. My Tiny Life by Julian Dibbell was written over a decade ago, but it’s tales of cyber passion are just as pertinent today. Is cybersex really sex? Can it actually be meaningful? How can two people get in on in one tiny, make-believe magic lamp? Share your love of lusty online role-playing with someone special by letting Dibbell do the talking.

When in doubt, give the gift of cybersex! As in, go out and have some. Heck, consider it a holiday present to yourself.

Feature Articles | Kinky sex makes for happy people | Straight.com
By Pieta Woolley
Publish Date: November 22, 2007

The Brentwood Town Centre food court was, during lunch time on November 6, not an obvious hub of sexuality. Diners hunched over the bolted-down tables, ingesting soft meat burritos and fried rice. Most ate alone in silence. But to sex-positive activist Jennifer Skrukwa, there was nothing flaccid about such an ordinary crowd.

“I’ll bet 40 percent of the people here are kinky,” she told the Georgia Straight in an interview at the food fair. “But do they label their kinks? Surely there’s a lot of people here who like to have their nipples pinched really hard before they come. Or get scratched. Or feel the full weight of someone lying on top of them. Or have their bums spanked a couple of times a year. I’ll bet there’s a woman here who likes to dress up in heels and bustiers. And that man over there wearing a Betty Boop jacket, he’s probably wearing red silk undies. Someone here has got his wife’s panties in his pocket and sniffs them each time he goes to the washroom today.

“These people are alive with sex. But many of them are denying that they are.”

Skrukwa isn’t a denier, inside or out. At the food fair, she wore a turquoise lace tank, push-up bra, and black stilettos. Her lipstick was perfectly applied, her eyes popped under heavy mascara, and her long dark hair was immaculately teased and sprayed. That evening, at the Love Nest sex store across from Metrotown, she taught cock-sucking to a full house.

Vancouver wants what she is selling. The 35-year-old mom leads 170 workshops per year on subjects ranging from “butt sex and anal pleasure” to “finding and stimulating the G-spot”, which features a live demonstration “where you can actually see the G-spot spurt”, she said. Skrukwa claims she’s hosted about 7,000 people each year since she started her business, Libido Events ( libidoevents.com/ ), eight years ago. On Saturday (November 24), she’s throwing a 120-person sex party at 595 Hornby Street that will include: eight queen-sized beds; one bondage suspension rack; a sex room; a dance floor; a flogging station; 4,800 square feet in which to frolic; and a set of house rules.

This isn’t porn or prostitution. It’s grownups of diverse sexual preferences consensually and shamelessly getting their freak on. And Vancouver has become one giant sexy experiment, with Generations Y and X leading the way.

Sin City’s fetish nights at Gastown’s Club 23 West attract 500 naughty schoolgirls, goths, and others monthly and boast 1,085 Facebook members. Kitsilano’s Art of Loving offers classes in sexual massage, kissing, how to “make her moan”, and other subjects. The CY Club, Vancouver’s oldest swinging club, offers “hump day” once a month. The two-year-old Club Eden, a warehouse-sized club in Delta, charges $50 for a couples membership, $90 per event, and another $100 to stay overnight. This summer, it expanded to Calgary. “Polyamorists” (those who love more than one person) are finding each other on the Web, and UBC PhD candidate Danielle Duplassie believes their numbers may reach the thousands in B.C.

“There seems to be a trend that one person cannot meet all of another person’s needs,” she told the Straight . “There’s certainly a trend to more openness.”

This is just the tip. Almost every night of the month, there’s some easy-to-find kinky event where consenting adults can get off.

But are you getting any? You, Straight reader, who bought into the monogamous “lifestyle”, as sanctioned by society, law, the church, the synagogue, the temple, and the mosque. How much sex are you having?

In the absence of any recent, local, decently sampled research on sexual frequency, it’s impossible to know just what you and your neighbours are up to. In his work, local sex therapist David McKenzie refers to The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States , by Edward O. Laumann, John H. Gagnon, Robert T. Michael, and Stuart Michaels (University of Chicago Press, 1994). They found that about 10 percent of adults are sexually inactive, and about a quarter have sex a few times a year or not at all. In total, they found, 60 percent of adults are having sex a few times a month or less. Not exactly burning up the bedrooms.

Burnaby counsellor Dawn Schooler sees plenty of Generation Y and Xers who are having no sex. In fact, that’s a trend that is going to worsen, she predicted to the Straight in a phone interview.

“There’s a growing isolation,” she said. “Leisure time is spent in solitary pursuits, on the Internet, iPods, video games. They don’t learn to have social relationships.” As for monogamous couples, she said of those she sees in her practice, they’re simply too busy to have sex, thanks to work, the high cost of living, and children.

Skrukwa’s answer is kink. Get kinky and get some.

“For me, it started when a partner asked me to wear high-heeled shoes in bed,” she recalled. “Stilettos. So I started wearing shoes for him, and it spiralled.” She tried out an S&M club. “It was not my cup of tea, but I was captivated by the idea that you can be in a space where people accept you for what you want.”

Now, with a female partner of six years, a male partner of one year, and a growing business helping folks sort out their freaks, Skrukwa is at the helm of the mainstreaming of kink in Vancouver, for the sake of keeping everyone’s sex life alive.

Lulu West was 29 the first time she strapped on an oversized, sparkly, clear-jelly dildo, paired it with stockings, garters, and a corset, and braved a fetish night with some girlfriends. With a one-year-old at home, she hadn’t been out for a couple of years. She panicked before going.

“But after about five minutes, I loved the titillation, the dancing, the eye candy, the outfits,” she told the Straight in an Oak Street coffee shop. “There was a really beautiful bleached-blond lady who was bending all these guys over a pool table, and they were begging her to spank them. She had a huge hickory switch, and she was laughing and having a good time, swatting them with it. At the end, she pulled out her boob and squeezed breast milk all over their bums and rubbed it in all over.”

West paused and her eyes opened wide.

“And I thought, ‘Wow! I’m not bored! Check this out!’”

Avoiding boredom is a big motivator for West. Now married, she still goes to fetish nights and adult play parties with permission from her husband. She’s allowed to do anything except have sex with men–though she frequently has “dildo sex” with women. For her, she said, it keeps her primary relationship fresh and her work as a federal civil servant more tolerable.

“I love my husband, but everybody gets bored,” she said. “Sometimes you just want to colour outside the lines. It makes you energized. You feel sexier [after a party], and you get a mood boost for days.…When you go out, you bring back something new, something you saw or did. And you can play with that for a while. Play with your thoughts, the things you saw. Have a fantasy.”

West looked to the existing scene to freshen her sex life, but SFU student Scott Barnes simply introspected. Nine years ago, Barnes was 17 and travelling across Canada with his girlfriend. In Montreal, he met another woman. He asked his girlfriend, “If I sleep with this other woman, does that mean we have to break up?” She thought that didn’t make sense. So Barnes began a two-year “freeing and liberating” sexual era in his life: lots of partners, lots of sex.

Next, he spent seven years in an almost sex-free monogamous relationship.

“Her sex drive waned so dramatically,” he explained to the Straight in a phone interview. “For four years, we had no sex. It really reinforced to me the reasonableness of being nonmonogamous.”

Recently, he fell “madly and completely in love” with a woman. He explained to her his preference for nonmonogamy. She considered it. Tragically, he said, the same day he realized he didn’t need anyone else, she broke up with him over the issue. So now he’s buying flowers, trying to lure her back.

To help himself and others sort through the issues, Barnes started a Facebook group called Poly-Monogamy: An Inquiry Into Open Relationships. After heated on-line debates and private thoughts, his conclusion is, “Except for those who enshrine a coherent set of principles–like Roman Catholic or fundamentalist Muslim marriage, unless it’s that strict–I think everyone wants something different out of their relationships.”

That conclusion, and Barnes and West’s own histories, are consistent with their demographic, according to sex counsellor McKenzie. Those under 40, he said, are far more willing to try kink and open relationships than their seniors. In the six years since McKenzie started his practice, the biggest change he’s seen is the more liberal attitudes of many of his clients toward swinging.

“Sex is not the big bogeyman for them that it was for us,” he told the Straight in a phone interview. “Generation Y saw their parents get divorced, and they don’t want to divorce. At the same time, there’s a deep need for variety.”

Indeed, if Skrukwa is at the helm of nonmonogamy in Vancouver, Barnes and West are tossed about by the waves.

A young Barnes saw a marriage close to him disintegrate under the pressure of monogamy. The woman didn’t want sex; the man did. And in the long term, their solution looked a lot like his first nonmonogamous relationship–only unhappy, and without her consent. Why, he wonders, shouldn’t the man be up-front about his desire for everyone’s sake?

West estimated that about a third of her friends are open to the kink scene. It’s a relief after the mainstream dating scene, she said.

“I wasted a lot of time before,” she said. “I used to go to the regular clubs endlessly, trying to be charming. I think people really misrepresent themselves there. Guys can rob you emotionally when they’re not honest [about being nonmonogamous]. In the kink scene, you’re just out there, asking for exactly what you want.”

In West’s experience, though, the other two-thirds of folk are too scared or unmotivated to break out of their low-sex lives. Television sucks the sex drives out of plenty of friends who don’t participate in kink, she said. For others, “they’re in serious ‘no’ mode,” she relayed. For undefined reasons, West said, some refuse because of amorphous “values” or “judgments”.

Monogamy is not working, according to Duplassie, the founder and director of Burnaby’s Shanti Counselling Centre. Divorce is almost at 50 percent; affairs are epidemic; and those who claim to be monogamous often simply go from one partner to the next–hardly the definition of the word.

Her PhD thesis in counselling psychology addresses polyamory. She hopes that a better clinical understanding of the subject will aid counsellors in helping those with more than one partner.

Duplassie started her research when, two years ago, she found herself to be in love with two people. At a conference she attended in Ottawa, she talked about the idea of polyamory.

“My questions were shut down,” she told the Straight during an interview at a Commercial Drive coffee shop. “They said, ‘I wonder what polyamorists are running away from?’ and I thought, ‘Wow. That’s ignorant.’ I wanted to research women who can speak to that experience, without the pathological viewpoint.”

What she’s found so far is that there are hundreds, if not thousands, of Vancouverites who identify as polyamorous, and probably many more who consensually have more than one partner, without self-labelling. And–apart from the December 2006 issue of the U.K.–based Sexualities on-line journal, which was devoted to polyamory–there’s very little recent academic research on nonmonogamy, Duplassie has found. Canadian laws governing marriage and benefits don’t support it; universities don’t study it; the pharmaceutical companies would rather medicate low sex drives than promote alternative sexual expression; and society does not yet embrace it, she said. Yet lots and lots of people are doing it, in spite of all that.

The growth of kink is good news to John Ince, the leader of the Vancouver-based Sex Party ( sexparty.ca/ ). Those in their 20s and 30s, he echoed, are the most sexually liberal generation. But they fall apart politically. To have a true sex-positive culture, he said, the laws must change. Censorship must be restricted; sex education should teach positive, gradual skills; public nudity should be allowed; sex work must be legalized–among many other provincial and federal changes listed in the party’s on-line platform.

“It disturbs me that the most sex-positive component of the culture is the least likely to vote,” he told the Straight on the phone. “It’s a problem for the entire progressive community.”

Youth in Vancouver enjoy a comparatively free sexual stage, he said, including: Wreck Beach; a thriving destination gay scene; a diverse indoor sex industry largely unhampered by police; a fetish community; and “Porn North”, the emerging sex-entertainment industry.

Still, Ince said, there’s a long way to go. He pointed to Surrey’s recent stir over the nudists who wanted to use the Newton Wave Pool as a prime example.

For Skrukwa, though, it’s not about politics. It’s about the small, personal barriers holding people back from embracing sex positivity. Breaching the subject with your partner. Going to a first event. Even Vancouver’s casual fashion scene is a cold shower on sexuality.

“I always have heels on,” Skrukwa explained. “If you want to feel sexy, you have to do something about it. If you feel like the same old craptacular image wearing your washed-out whatevers, you’re not eye candy. Sexy is as sexy does. And most men like a pair of heels.”

If, as Ince says, youth are apolitical, the redefinition of what mainstream sexuality is for the 21st century depends on the personal decisions of folk like Skrukwa, West, Barnes, and Duplassie. They’re voting with their feet–and minds and sexy bits–for nonmonogamy.

Texas suburb sued for banning sex clubs – CNN.com
DALLAS, Texas (AP) — A man who holds sex parties in his home sued the suburban Dallas city where he lives Wednesday, claiming that a recently approved ban on sex clubs unconstitutionally targets his lifestyle.
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Jim Trulock, whose home transforms into “The Cherry Pit” on weekends, sued the city of Duncanville.

Last month city officials passed an ordinance banning sex clubs, calling it a response to neighbor complaints about the traffic and noise Trulock’s house created.

City officials said the lawsuit won’t stop their efforts to shut down the parties.

“We will continueto enforce the ordinances,” city spokeswoman Tonya Lewis said.

Trulock already has been cited for the parties, which draw upward of 100 people and feature themes like “Naked Twister” nights.

He accuses the city of having no “constitutionally acceptable” grounds to enact the ordinance, according to the lawsuit.

Duncanville is a city of 36,000 just southwest of Dallas.

Bondage, Toys, and the Myths in Between – Associated Content
By cw
“BSDM”: a tricky acronym that seems to be very confusing to many. Yet when broken down, it is really quite simple. Each letter of this acronym corresponds to each other. B & D = Bondage and Discipline. D & S = Dominance and Submission. S & M= Sadomasochism.

This lingo may still be confusing to you. But it’s good to know that “BSDM” can refer to any of these ideas, and unlike many who believe this, BDSM is not a negative or hurtful thing when it comes to sex.

Many may hear the word “bondage” and run scared, thinking of it as too wild or sick or “out there” to even dare try.

What many do not know is that even the simplest acts of erotica used in bed or wherever, are in fact considered BDSM. If you’ve ever used a blindfold, whipped cream, ice cubes or feathers to entice your partner, you have engaged in BDSM.

Sexual tension is something that occurs within both members of the opposite sex. BDSM is an excellent way to release this tension and discover sides of you and your partner that would otherwise not be seen in a normal session under the sheets.

In most cases, one person chooses to be the dominant and one choose to be the submissive. Self-explanatory, but in essence, the dominant partner is the one in charge; the submissive chooses to be “submitted.” And contradictory to popular belief, it isn’t just the dominant partner who gets what they want; the submissive gets what they want, if not more, sexually. To keep things interesting, it is not uncommon for partners to switch these roles.

Overall, BDSM is a way to explore yourself and your partner sexually. It’s a harmonious agreement between two people to react upon each other’s deepest needs, fantasies and desires.

Hopefully this will remove any stereotype or negative connation that “bondage” is all hardcore sex or infliction of pain for pleasure. Yes, the pleasure part is correct. But when a couple decides to engage in this activity, they are not physically harming each other for pleasure…it is more the idea of being submitted by someone else that is the turn-on.

Just like BDSM, it’s all too common a misconception that toys used for bondage may, in fact, hurt your partner or significant other. Rather, this is a silly thought when remembering what these type of sex objects are made for…They are “toys” after all. They are not meant to physically damage, but physically please.

Popular bondage toys like handcuffs, whips, paddles and feathers have been around for years and have been used by couples, swingers, lovers, and nymphos, for ages. There is something about being tied up naked, held hostage in bed or teased to the point of orgasm that entices people to use these objects. They are simply a turn-on.

Luckily, these days we have the freedom of choice. Handcuffs do not have to be the standard plastic black; they can be any color you like while the material can be whatever feels pleasing to the skin, from sexy leather to sensual Japanese silk. For those who really enjoy being in charge, they even have cuffs for the neck, ankles and legs of your partner as well.

Whips, paddles and nipple clamps are also popular S&M toys, all of which are sold in variation. Like many bondage products, whips, as well as nipple clamps, may sound dangerous. But again, the whip itself cannot cause any serious physical pain, but rather is used is a form of foreplay or sexual engagement before actual intercourse.

As far as nipple plants go, do not run scared (especially men.) In most cases the clamp simply vibrates, if anything at all, and this should not be painful but stimulating to the body.

There are more objects that fall into the bondage category whether they really belong there or not. An example of this is the ever-popular “sex swing,” which is accurately more a toy than a bondage object. The swing, however, is excellent for those who like trying out new sexual positions, not to mention those who like producing many, many big O’s for you and your partner.

If you’re new to bondage, start out simple. Even the seemingly harmless combination of a blindfold and feather can work wonders for your partner.

These toys were made for sexual pleasure. Enhance your erotic desires and live out your sexual fantasies.

Satisfaction guaranteed.